There is always more inside of us than we often dare to show to others. Most of us are wrought with a need to indulge in self expression yet for the most part also, we hold it in. We are afraid of being typecast or judged and to butt against the grain of society can restrict what you do in life.
It is the stigma that we attach to certain aspects of self expression that stops people from indulging. If we are poetic or just like to write then we are possibly seen as dreamers, procastinators, airy-fairy brained and we are not taken seriously because we have never been published.
Artists and photographers see the world differently to the rest of us so they are categorised as eccentrics. Those with tattoos are seen as common and somehow lower class or it is assumed they have a lower intelligence level and are more prone to drug taking or drunkeness.
We judge people all the time and never seem to learn not to judge a book by its cover.
In the world of corporate business there are rules governing people’s dignity at work. People are to be seen and treated equally, given the dignity that they are an individual and have individual merit. Can you imagine any corporation employing someone covered in tattoos to be a senior manager or allowing them to become a director? Of course not. In business they would be seen as good enough to rise to a certain level of compitency but limited to that because of their image.
If we really want to indulge in our self expression then we have to change our expectations of life and accept that we will be pigeon holed in a certain bracket by the rest of society. Yes, of course there will be exceptions to this rule but I am referring to the largest percentage of the population who will look at body art like this and admire it but would never dare to actually take the step to have it done to themselves because they know it would not be accepted in their circles.
We cannot expect to rise to the level of a company director if we choose to have a face full of piercings. We cannot expect to enter into a relationship with a middle class, professional person if we sit at home all day trying to write a bestseller book but never actually finish the work or try to get published.
Would you employ this man to go door to door trying to sell your product? Would you allow him to work in your local nursery looking after your young children or even be a teacher at your school? No, you would not want this example to be seen by your children and for most people this is an uncomfortable image to look at.
So how do we overcome social stigma and allow ourselves to express our inner self?
As I said, you would have to lower your expectations of life.
We are mostly brought up to believe that we must be successful materially in life. We strive to have a big house, big car etc and spend most of our lives chasing that dream. But unless your form of expression suits that lifestyle then you will always feel unfulfilled.
There is nothing wrong with simply having a roof over your head. There is nothing wrong with having a second hand car. There is nothing wrong with not wearing designer clothes or shopping in ordinary shops.
We do not need a big lifestyle to be happy we need to be honest with ourselves and find out what it is inside that we most enjoy. That is the dream we are meant to follow, the inner need for self expression.